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WHAT IT FEELS LIKE TO BE BURNED OUT AT WORK

Job burnout: How to spot it and take action

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In this video, I’ll discuss job burnout. One sign to spot burnout and how to fix it.

If you are suffering from this burnout symptom, find someone to help. I’m Stewart Swayze of stewartswayze.com.

I’m an Executive Coach for Career Development & Transitions and a Marketing Consultant for Coaches, Consultants, and Solopreneurs. I release new videos every week on those topics, so if your interested in developing your career or marketing, subscribe to my YouTube Channel. Check out my links to my freebies at the end of this post.

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Monday morning, at 6:13 am. Your alarm clock goes off. You reach over and hit the snooze button you've already done it once before. You didn't sleep last night because all you can think about was everything you had to get done this week.

You can almost feel the emails already coming into your mailbox. Maybe you’re thinking, should I start my own company? Should I change jobs? Your mind races a little bit. No, I'm good.

But, what did I forget? When is my boss going to call me into the office and call me out? What are the deadlines I have this week?

Holy cow it's going to be another week when I'm not present for my family!

If you wake up on Monday morning and it's hard as hell to get out of bed, and you're not enthused to go to work, and not happy or passionate about what you're doing ...

If you're already projecting what's going to happen and feeling the crushing weight of stress on top of you, you're burned out at work.

There is no reason for you to feel that way. There is no reason for you to wake up on Monday mornings and already feel stressed for the week to come. Like everything's coming down upon you and you haven't even gotten out of bed.

There are plenty of strategies, tactics, and exercises you can do to take back control of your life, so that you're not burned and you're pursuing your passion. All the while, your happy healthy and financially set.

If you'd like to learn any of those strategies or talk more about being burned out at work, feel free to connect with me. I'm happy to support you

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Why I Can't Make a Decision?

Indecision is in fact, a decision.

It also has it's own scientific term: Aboulomania. If you're paralyzed by indecision, here's what to do about it.

Don't fall victim to indecision. Often, we fear that it will be impossible to recover if we make the "wrong" decision. This is not the case.

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Embrace the adaptation and expansion of the "Corridor Principle."

Indecision is like peering down a long, dark corridor with doors on each side, but not moving. You have no idea what awaits if you walk down the hallway and it stops you in your tracks. You ask yourself, "why can't I make a decision?"

Person 1: By embracing the Corridor Principle, you finally decide to walk down the dark hall without knowing what will happen,

You’re willing to risk uncertainty and fear, for the sake of moving forward, learning, and growing.

As you proceed down the corridor, new doors begin to open on both sides of you. The doors are full of opportunity.

You have the opportunity to gain new knowledge, skills, and abilities. You learn to be resilient and improve your habits.

You become a stronger person, business leader, and entrepreneur. You move closer towards your goals and closer to success.

As you continue forward, opportunities that you could see and could not pursue, before you made the earlier decision to walk down the corridor, appear all around you.

Person 2: Now imagine another person has the opportunity to proceed down the same corridor.

But, this person is unwilling to proceed until assurances can be made that they will succeed. He/she is stuck in indecision waiting for assurances that will never come.

He/she will sit on the sidelines watching everyone else pass them over. Nobody can guarantee or predict the future. You have to move forward.

Ask yourself, which person do you want to be?

How to overcome indecision

How to make a difficult decision:

- Research just enough so you can make an informed decision

- Write clear short-term and long-term goals

- Write down what inspires you, emotionally, to pursue those goals

- Imagine what your future will look like if you don't pursue your dreams.

- Imagine what your future will look like if you accomplish your dreams.

- Turn those visions into the motivation and energy you need to proceed.

- Commit to your ultimate outcome, but be flexible on the path you take to reach it.

- Identify any negative patterns, challenges, or obstacles that come up along the way, write down how you overcame them

- Recruit someone to help keep you accountable and mentor you along your path to success.

Success, no matter the venture, begins with a willingness to face uncertainty. Enjoy any new experience as an opportunity. And, take steps in the direction of your goal.

- Stewart Swayze


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Want to Increase Your Chances of Having a Good Day? Turn THIS Off!

Increase your chances of having a good day

Problem: 

Author, researcher, and expert in positive psychology Michelle Gielan told audiences at the International Government Communication Forum (IGCF) on Thursday that:

“Three minutes of negative news in the morning can increase your chances of having a bad day by 27 per cent,” said the author of best-selling book ‘Broadcasting Happiness.’

Negative news can trigger “Problem-focused” emotions, thoughts, and views in people, she explained. You either get pissed off, frustrated, and fired up in agreement and/or disagreement. Either way, your emotions are negatively impacted.  

“Small messages can have an incredible impact on how we view community ties, the world and our place in it ...” 

Solution:

Do you have that friend that’s always stirring the pot? Do they continue to share negative news and posts on social media? Hide them from your feed. Don’t take the bait. 

Your happiness is more important than their need for acknowledgement, validation, and ego.

You have a choice. Turn off the negative news! This means TV, Radio, and Social Media. Stop the negative news sharing, commenting, and liking on Social Media. It’s ruining your day! 

Focus on what’s positive and good in your life! Find what brings you positive energy and happiness. Fill your day, and social media feed, with positive! 

If you’re passionate about a cause, get out from behind your desk or off couch and go volunteer! Stop talking about the cause and start DOING something to create positive and constructive change. 

“Become the Cause” of your happiness.

- Stewart

ABOUT STEWART

Hi. I’m Stewart Swayze, I’m a Career Transition and Marketing Coach for Entrepreneurs. I release new videos every week on those topics. If your interested in developing your career or marketing your business, view my YouTube Channel  below.


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How Pink Panther Socks Changed My Career (Video)

How Pink Panther Socks Changed My Career

Career Development

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  • How finding your unique self will lead to a successful career

  • How to work with a team, but stand out from the crowd

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How to Become a Better Communicator (Video)

2 Tips to Instantly Become a Better Communicator at Work

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  • Career advice on becoming a better communicator

  • How to answer leadership questions

  • Why communication is an important leadership skill

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How to Win a $1 Million Dollar Racehorse (Video)

How to Win a $1 Million Dollar Racehorse This Year

DESCRIPTION: What would you do if you won a million dollar racehorse? In this video I provide real-world thoughts on career advice and career planning. You'll learn to think though a personal development plan. • Would you take care of the horse? • Would you develop a training plan? • Would enter the horse into as many races as possible? Click Here to Learn More: http://bit.ly/2BB9viL

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How to Improve Your Life - Learn Exactly Where and How to Hammer Your Nail

Improve Your Career or Life

There once was a man that had an annoying squeaky floor. Every time he walked across the TV room, this floor squeaked and creaked. 

Frustrated, this man called over a neighbor that was good with woodworking. The neighbor couldn’t figure out how to stop the squeak and recommended a handyman.

So, the man called a local handyman. The handyman came over and walked around the room. He tried everything, but couldn’t fix the problem. He even handyman recommended pulling up all the carpet and redoing the subfloor. Then, of course, offered his services to do that. 

This man didn’t want to pay the expense of redoing the floor. Frustrated, he waited. He continued for months with that damn annoying squeaky floor. 

Six months later, he had enough. He searched through Google and found a “master carpenter.” The master carpenter came. Just like the handyman, he walked around the room. But, he also took measurements, moved the furniture around, and even rolled a ball across the floor. 

All of this seemed a little curious to the man, but hey … this guy’s a master carpenter. And, if what the master carpenter is doing fixes the squeaky floor, then so be it. 

Finally, the carpenter finished studying the room. The carpenter asked the man to grab the hammer and a single 10d plywood nail out of his toolbox. The man walked over and selected the tools as requested by the carpenter.

Then, the carpenter knelt and pointed to a specific spot on the floor. “Now, nail right here, but slightly angled towards the back window.”

How to Improve Your Career or Life

The man was a little surprised at the carpenter’s request. But, went ahead and hammered the nail through the carpet, but angled towards the back window. 

When the man finished hammering, they both stood up and walked around the room — no more squeaking or creaking. The Master Carpenter reached into his pocket and handed the man a bill. 

The man didn’t understand. He said, “Wait a minute, you came here, walked around the room, and told ME to hammer the nail. I did all the work. How can you charge me when I did the work?”

The carpenter replied, “You didn’t hire me to hammer the nail. You hired me to fix your squeaky floor. You hired me to tell you EXACTLY how and where to hammer the nail.” 

If you want a better career or to improve your leadership skills, don’t rip up your entire floor. Learn precisely where and how to hammer your nail. 

Improving your career or life

When you hire an Executive Coach, you aren’t hiring him/her to hammer your nail. The power of an Executive Coach rests in his/her ability to observe your situation, goals, habits, and current actions. Then, provide you the resources, tools (hammer and nail), and location of EXACTLY where and how to hammer your nail. 

We hold you accountable, but it’s up to you to take action. If we solve everything for you, it won’t help in the long-run. You won’t learn and improve.

How can I support you?

Sincerely,

Stewart Swayze

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5 Fundamentals of Success You’re Probably Ignoring

5 Fundamentals of Success

My middle school baseball coach was a former major league pitcher. While other coaches taught their young players the more complicated aspects of baseball, my coach concentrated on fundamentals. 

His core message: “Don’t overcomplicate the game, develop discipline, and focus on the fundamentals. If you follow these rules, you’ll be successful on and off the field.”

Often, we overcomplicate what it takes to be successful in life and business. We get caught up chasing the next shiny object or the latest over-hyped piece of technology. Sadly, this causes us to lose our discipline and forget to focus on the fundamentals of success. 

  1. Do you want that corner office on the top floor? You must work harder than the million-other people wanting that same office. Do you want to build the next unicorn billion-dollar startup? You must work harder than the million other founders wanting the same thing – Hard work pays off (period).

  2. We live in world of instant gratification. Everyone wants to find the next shortcut or “hack” that reduces time and risk. They daydream about instant millionaire ideas. Good luck with that. There’s no such thing as an overnight success. Sustained success takes years of learning and not cutting corners. - Never stop learning.

  3. Stop saying you want to be successful and stop complaining about not being successful. Stop saying you’ll start next week, month, or year. Go fucking do it. - What you say means nothing. What you do means everything.   

  4. Think about this real hard. it’s not your boss’s responsibility to develop your career and give you a promotion. It’s not your client’s responsibility to purchase your product over the competitors. It’s not your spouse’s responsibility to keep you organized, clean the house, and make you happy. It’s not the government’s responsibility to pass favorable laws and regulation. It’s not the market’s fault that you took a risk and it failed. It’s your fault. It’s your responsibility. And, it’s time for you to own it. - Take responsibility for your success, failure, and how you learn from both.

  5. Be present. Actively listen. Share ideas. Seek win/win results. Teach people skills to will help them excel. Let others speak first. Even if you're an expert, learn from alternative or counter views. Give without expectations of receiving. Deliver credit where it’s due. Remember, selfish people end up working alone and a lot harder. - Be a Positive Leader

Follow these simple, but fundamental rules and you’ll find success. It may not be easy and could take time. But, these fundamentals will pay off in the end. You’ll become successful and you’ll develop a huge support network along the way. 

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Warning: 4 Signs You Have the Fear of Success & How to Overcome Them

How to Overcome the Fear of Success

Many people fail to achieve their goals due to the “Fear of Failure.” However, are you aware there's another major fear we often overlook? 

When you compare Fear of Success vs Fear of Failure, they are equally dangerous. It damages our motivation to succeed. It's known as the “Fear of Success!” You got that right, the fear of SUCCESS!

The Fear of Failure stops us from acting or making decisions. We worry about rejection and negative outcomes if we pursue our goals. We can identify the Fear of Failure through more tangible fears. Plus, and there are tools and exercises to help us overcome mental blocks and reprogram our mind for success. 

The Fear of Success is a subtle little creature. It's harder to identify, transform, and eradicate.

How do you know if you have the "Fear of Success? 

Do you implement the correct self-improvement and personal development tools, but your life does not improve? Maybe your life even gets worse.

Have you ever settled for less than you deserve or are capable of achieving? Uh hum, this could be the Fear of Success.

Do you find yourself motivated about starting a new project, but your efforts and enthusiasm slowly fade? Or, you even stop short before you have completed the project.

Deep down, do you find yourself almost expecting things to go wrong, no matter how promising the situation?

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Do you identify with any of the questions above?

Just like the Fear of Failure, the Fear of Success can hold you back. Detailed in the list below are a few real Fear of Success symptoms.

1) You haven't found the right time – Always waiting until the time is right to start acting. Guess what? There's no perfect time and no ideal plan. 

Do it now. Start now. Again, the key to success in taking action. Zero + Zero = Zero. One step forward is better than no steps. If you wait to find the best time, there are other people out there moving right past you. Even if you take the wrong action, you just learned. You gained insight and knowledge. You are flexible and can adjust ... do it even better the next time.

2) You procrastinate – You putt off tasks that will bring you closer to your goal. Everyone suffers from this gremlin at some point, but if it's a reoccurring habit ... that's a problem called Fear of Success Procrastination. 

Take small steps toward your goal each day. Take action! Any action! Stop sitting around and doing nothing. 

3) You are a perfectionist - Similar challenge as above, you stay in the same place because you are spending so much time perfecting your move. Nothing in life is perfect. You can always find areas to improve. That's the great part! How many football games have you watched, enjoyed, and thought ... "Damn, my team just played amazing!" I'd be willing to bet the players and coaches of the winning team felt the same thing. However, I'd bet $1,000,000 that those same coaches and players went back and studied the game film. They enjoyed the win, but found areas to improve. Move forward, enjoy the ride, but ACCOMPLISH your goals. Then, once you've celebrated ... if you feel it's necessary, go back and improve. 

4) You are problem-focused – Do you spend more time focused on the problems or the solutions? Reframe your problem-focused mindset to turn it into your advantage. Transition from Problem Focus to Solution Focus.

Sit down for a “focused”, but short period of time. Use your laser focus to identify ALL of the problems. Develop a solution and prepare a plan to tackle each one. Create your plan with a checklist. Use the process of crossing off each problem as your motivation to drive forward. If you run across more problems, remind yourself of how well you dealt with the other issues. Ask, “what is the best solution to overcome this challenge?” Then, add it your list and keep checking them off! 

Fear of success and failure can by difficult to overcome, However, remember to enjoy the journey as much as the results. Move forward, my friend!  If you follow the above steps to overcome your Fear of Success, you will achieve success. Ultimately, your fear of success will reduce, and you will develop a personal "system" of success. 


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50 Ways to Find Happiness

50 Ways to Find Happiness

The happiest people appreciate what they have, keep an open mind and seek out new challenges to grow. They use their leisure time to have fun, reflect and development. They have a few excellent friends and don’t measure friendship by the number of followers or connections. They enjoy music, books, hobbies, family and stimulating conversation. They know that small steps lead to massive action. They choose to be the “cause” of their happiness. 

 Sound hard? It’s not. Here are 50 ideas to get you started with becoming the cause of your happiness.

 1.    Laugh … laugh a lot

2.    Find time for fun

3.    Appreciate everything you are and aren't

4.    Enjoy time alone

5.    Focus on Improvement, not perfection

6.    Read awe inspiring stories

7.    Reach out and help others

8.    Be mindful and present in the moment

9.    Find what you are passionate about, do it as often as possible. Even if it's once a week

10.  Write or record what makes you happy. Refer to daily

11.  Exercise, even if that's taking a walk for 15-minutes

12.  Stand on your own, but learn when to be agreeable

13.  Build deep friendships with only a few people. Keep them close

14.  Give it your best, one small step at a time

15.  Don't sweat the little things, there's life, life changing, and life threatening … 99% is life.

16.  Learn that materialism does not equal success. Often people w/ the most expensive things have the highest debt

17.  Share your happiness with others

18.  Know that your past does not define your future

19.  Be grateful for what you have

20.  Everything in moderation

21.  Be YOU. Don't give shit what others think about YOU

22.  Listen to good music

23.  Simplify your life

24.  Money does not buy happiness. Some of the poorest nations in the world are also the happiest

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26.  Open your mind, you don't have to agree, but you can learn the "why"

27.  Have meaningful conversations with strangers

28.  Maintain a healthy diet, but occasionally break it!

29.  Adopt / Rescue an animal

30.  Relax, become a little more flexible

31.  Find humor in your mistakes

32.  Be spontaneous once a day

33.  When life isn't going well, be the cause of change

34.  Keep faith

35.  Find your creativity 

36.  Be happy now. You are the only one in control of your happiness.

37.  Know that it's not what happens to you, it's how you perceive and react to it

38.  Enjoy the simple things in life

39.  Have goals with purpose and meaning for your life

40.  Stop watching doom and gloom news and TV

41.  Life is not perfect, accept that this is okay

42.  Don't forget to celebrate even the small wins

43.  SMILE

44.  Be supportive and seek support when needed

45.  Find a hobby that gets you in the flow

46.  Savor the moment

47.  Appreciate the beauty in art and the world around you

48.  Don't take yourself or others too seriously

49.  Surround yourself with happy people. Energy attracts like energy

50.  Sleep. Take a snap on Sunday

 

Become the Cause of Your Life. Become the Cause of Your Happiness. 

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7 Tips to Reduce Stress at Work (6 Powerful and 1 Super Quirky)

Tips to Reduce Stress At Work

7 Tips to Reduce Stress at Work (6 Powerful and 1 Super Quirky)

Your profession doesn’t matter. Everyone experiences work stress symptoms. Reducing stress at work is one of the most discussed subjects with my clients. If we can reduce the causes of stress at work, we tend to lead happier and healthier lives. Below I’ve listed out 7 strategies for managing stress at work. There are many more, but starting with these will put you in a better place. 

1.    Plan your day, the day before

Many people walk into the office, open their calendar, and then plan their day. This means they spent a ton of time worrying. Leave your planning at the “office,” don’t take it home. Take 5-10 minutes at the end of each day to review progress and plan for the next day. Once you’ve planned for tomorrow, clear that stress out of your head. You can go home knowing you are prepared for maximum productivity tomorrow.

2.    Everything has a solution

You are a problem solver. There is a solution. Take a deep breath and relax. The longer you hold onto your negative reaction to a stressful situation, the more it weighs on your mind, the worse it gets. The stress reaction you are experiencing is acting as a filter and limiting what you see as potential solutions. Remove the stress reaction, remove the filter, and shift your mindset from problem spotting to solution focused.

Consider purchasing a Problem/Solution rock (pictured below). As a problem arises, take the time to reflect on the challenge. Close your eyes. Hold the stone in your hand as you rub the problem side. Take a few deep breaths and relax. Let go of the stress as you flip the stone to the solution side. Feel the texture of the engraved letters spelling out “solution.” Allow ideas to flow into your mind. You have the solution.

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3.    Build Supportive Relationships

Having supportive and happy relationships is one of the most important ways to reduce stress. Avoid relationships that revolve around negativity. Subjecting yourself to constant drama, office politics, complaining, and general negativity only brings you down. Energy attracts like energy. Happy people attract happy people. Stressed people attract stressed people. 

Develop strong relationships at work and at home. Having healthy, supportive, and positive relationships provide something to look forward to before, during, and after work. By surrounding yourself with positive people you can drain away your negative energy and reduce your stress.

4.    Get up and take a walk

If you can feel the stress building, get up from your desk and take a walk. Spend 5-10 minutes away from your desk and the stressing situation. Breath in and out slowly as you are walking. Try to clear your mind or think about something pleasant. If you can get outside, take in some fresh air. No matter where you decide to walk, take a break from the negative emotions building up.

5.    Build a stress-busting playlist

Numerous studies show the impact music can have on our mood. If you want energy, you can listen to music that pumps you up. If you need to relax, you can listen to music that’s slower and chills you out. Music is extremely useful for reducing stress, as it connects to our emotions. Try making a calming playlist specific to reducing your stress.

6.    Learn to have “prioritization or timing” conversations with your boss (or client)

There’s only a certain amount of time in one day, week, month, or year. There’s a finite amount of work one person can complete without going insane. Keep a list of the activities, tasks, or work that you have on your plate. When your boss assigns another “priority,” revisit your list. If your list is too much for a certain period, you need to have a prioritization or timing conversation. Always bring several solutions to your boss, not just problems.

First, start with the pleasantries such as, “Hi. How’s your day going?” … All that fun stuff. Then, jump into the conversation –

Your beginning to the prioritization conversation:

You: Boss, here’s my list of priorities for this week. According to our agreed upon prioritization, I’m supposed to complete these ten items. This morning you asked me to prioritize this additional task. For me to prioritize this new item, I’ll need to adjust the prioritization of one of the other ten items. My suggestion is that we can move X down to the end of our prioritization. Moving X down means I may not complete it until next week. What are your thoughts?

Your boss may say no, but this is an excellent way to start “managing up” in an organization. You can even have this type of conversation as a manager for your team. Remember, nothing is a priority if everything is a priority.

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7.    Find a private place to yell, scream, and get it all out

Maybe you’ll think I’m weird because of this one, but guess what … it works. Screaming to release stress and feels damn good too. I’ve done it many times but never knew there was an official name for it until I wrote this article. It’s called, “primal scream therapy.” Who knew! It’s a legitimate form of psychotherapy used to treat anxiety, trauma, and even stress. Don’t lie; you know you want to try it now! Ok, so now that’s established, let’s get to the fun stuff.  

Occasionally when I was stressed out, I’d find a private place. Then, I’d scream as loud as I could. When I was screaming, I’d release all the built-up stress. My heart would start pumping, no ... it would begin racing. Not only was I releasing the stress, but also creating blood flow and energy! Once I stopped screaming, I’d start taking slow and deep breaths. I’d bring my focus back to the challenge ahead of me. Now I had all the energy needed to find and execute the solution.

What are your fun, quirky, or interesting ways to beat stress at work? Oh, and if any of you have “primal screaming” stories, please do share in the comments!


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10 tips to feel happier at work

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10 tips to feel happier at work

As an Executive Coach, I support successful, but stuck professionals that have lost their satisfaction and focus at work. They feel stressed, sometimes irritable for no reason, and wonder where the “balance” of work/life balance has gone.

I’m often asked: “How can I be happier at work?” This question is not surprising. In a happiness at work survey it was found that over 50% of the US workforce is currently unhappy at work. That’s ~65 Million people if you only consider the full-time workforce. The answer is specific to the individual I’m coaching. However, I’ll do my best to provide tips ways to be happier at work.

1) Identify what kind of work you are doing

A study by Amy Wrzesniewski, Yale School of Management, revealed that we can divide work into three categories: A Job, a Career, or a Calling. So, if you are pursuing happiness at work, the first thing you need to do is identify and categorize what kind of work you are doing.

Job: Your primary motivation is money. The work is a means to an end, getting paid. It helps you to pay for household bills, debts, and hopefully entertainment or activities.

Career: You appreciate or enjoy your work. Your primary motivation is advancement. Your goal is to gain promotions and climb the ladder (mountain). Each “role” is an opportunity to prove yourself and earn a promotion to the next role.

Calling: Your work is in direct alignment with your values. You are contributing to society or a worldly cause beyond yourself.

Once you’ve identified the type of work you are doing, you can reframe how you view the everyday grind.

Job: If you’re in a job, you could view it as “temporary.” It’s a way to make money while you work on other things. Once you pay off those debts, you’ll move onto something you love.

Career: If you’re in a career, but don’t like the work assignments in your current role, you can reframe it as a learning experience. You may dislike the work, but the skills you are gaining will lead to your next promotion. 

Calling: If you’ve found your calling, you’re in alignment with your values. Lucky you and high five! But, maybe your some happiness is negatively impacted because you aren’t making enough money. Reframe how you view it, you’re one of the luckiest people on the planet! Consider finding an enjoyable part-time job or side project to supplement your income.

Now that you’ve picked a category and reframed how you view your work, let’s move onto a few other tips.

2) Develop meaningful friendships

The fact that friendships at work can lead to happiness is a simple concept, but backed up by research. If you have a few good relationships at work, you look forward to going to work. If you have friends outside of work, you can look forward to social activities at the end of your day.

Officevibe conducted a study on work friendships. In this study, they found that 70% of employees said having friendships at work is the most crucial element to a happy work life. A Harvard Medical School study found that “having a friend who’s happy improves your likelihood of being happy by 15%.”

Get off your couch or from behind your desk and build those friendships.

3) Practice gratitude for YOUR work

There are numerous research studies correlating gratitude with increased optimism and an overall feeling of satisfaction. In one study, Dr. Robert A. Emmons of the University of California, Davis, and Dr. Michael E. McCullough of the University of Miami found that after ten weeks, participants who wrote about gratitude felt better about their lives and were more optimistic than other groups in the study.

When you start feeling down or unhappy, take 10-15 minutes to write down why you are grateful for your work.

4) Practice gratitude by praising others

Dr. Martin E. P. Seligman, a positive psychologist at the University of Pennsylvania, tested the impact of several positive psychology interventions on 411 people. The group that wrote and personally delivered a letter of gratitude to someone who had never been adequately thanked exhibited a drastic increase in happiness scores. The impact was more significant than any other intervention and the impact on their happiness lasted a month.

Compliments amplify positivity. They not only deliver positive effects to others, but also the person providing the praise. Find opportunities to personally appreciate and praise others at work. Please, don’t just send an email!

5) Find your happiness at home, more specifically your sex life

Has anyone every told you to separate our personal and professional life? Ha! They are interrelated; one impacts the other. If you’re happy at home, there’s an increased likelihood you are happy at work.

Keith Leavitt, a professor at Oregon State University, found that “those who prioritized sex at home unknowingly gave themselves a next-day advantage at work, where they were more likely to immerse themselves in their tasks and enjoy their work lives.” Who doesn’t want that advantage at work? The study also showed that bringing work-related stress home “negatively impinges on employees’ sex lives.” Nope. Don’t do it.

 I’ll leave the summary tip to you. Just know that happiness at work can start at home.

6) Stop believing that the only way to be happy at work is to “find something you’re passionate about and go do that!”

We are humans. Our passions are hard to prioritize. They also change over time. Your passions might not be your strengths or what the market demands. There are indicators, other than passion, that have a higher positive correlation to happiness: work-life balance, autonomy, and income.

Consider finding work that allows you to pursue an outside passion. If your passion is nature photography, you could work as a freelance graphic designer during the day, and pursue your passion on the weekends or vacations. 

7) Make your workspace a mood-boosting sanctuary

What boosts your mood? Inspirational quotes? Pictures of your family? How about plants or flowers? Think about what you can add to your workspace that will inspire you. Find items that make you smile.

It’s your workspace. Take a step back and find that creative designer deep inside you soul. Now, try making it your happy space. 

8) Connect your work to a higher purpose also called “Job Crafting.”

Author David Zax describes job crafting as carefully crafting how you think about your work. Amy Wrzesniewski (again) studied janitors at hospitals. She wanted to see “what strategies they might employ to find satisfaction in their admittedly low-skilled, low-paid jobs.” The results were fascinating. Some of the staff:

Felt their labor was highly skilled, they described the work in “rich relational terms,” says Wrzesniewski, talking about their interactions with patients and visitors. Many of them reported going out of their way to learn as much as possible about the patients whose rooms they cleaned, down to which cleaning chemicals were likely to irritate them less. “It was not just that they were taking the same job and feeling better about it, pulling themselves up by their bootstraps and whistling. It was that they were doing a different job.”

This second, happier group didn’t see themselves as custodial workers at all. One described forming such a bond with patients that she continued to write letters to some of them after they were discharged. Another paid attention to which patients seemed to have few visitors or none at all, and would make sure to double back to spend some time with them... What these workers were doing, Wrzesniewski came to realize, was quietly creating the work that they wanted to do out of the work that they had been assigned -- work they found meaningful and worthwhile. Wrzesniewski and her colleagues call this practice “job crafting,” and they think it could be the key to happiness in all sorts of jobs.

A-Mazing! You can craft how you feel about your job. Even if it’s only certain parts of your work, you can connect those parts, or the whole, to a higher purpose that increases your happiness, fulfillment, and satisfaction.

9) Find another line of work

You can only do so much by putting lipstick on a pig. It’s still a pig. If you are thoroughly drained and unhappy, it might be time to make a move. Remember, the best time to find a job is when you have a job. I’d recommend putting in the effort to find happiness in your current work. However, don’t settle for life-long unhappiness.

Find a job that aligns to your values and provides the income you desire. As an Executive Coach that works in the space all the time, believe me when I say this, find work that makes you as happy as possible. Who doesn’t want to go to work happy?! If you’re having trouble, consider creating your dream job through entrepreneurship. Take the time to understand what you value the most. Develop a plan of action. Then go get what you desire. Finding work that brings you happiness for the rest of your life is worth the time it might take. Who wouldn’t exchange 30+ years of pure happiness for 3 months to 1 year of minimal discomfort?

Be the cause of your happiness

10) Become the cause of your happiness

You are either at the effect of something else or the cause of your life. If you are unhappy at work, your happiness is at the “effect of your work.” Become the cause of your happiness, instead of surrendering your life to the effect of your circumstances. I’ve provided tips above that can help. However, you have absolute control over YOU. Work on “the who,” your thoughts, feelings, and emotions. Work on “the what,” your plans, actions, steps, strategy, and tactics. Only you control how you react to, feel about, or view your job. Only you control the actions you can take to increase happiness.

Stop waiting for someone or something else to bring you happiness. Find out what makes you happy at work. Go forth my friend. Connect your head and heart. Take control of your life. If you need help, consider hiring a coach to guide you along the way.

Take care and be happy!

- Stewart Swayze


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Being Intentional With Personal Development (Video)

Experience is a hard teacher because she gives the test first, the lesson afterward.” – Vernon Law. Right now, ask yourself, what can I do today that will make me a better person tomorrow? Learn more

Personal growth doesn’t happen automatically. You have to be intentional with your actions. You and only YOU must make it happen and learn how to grow. Stop waiting for the perfect time. Stop waiting for something or someone else to motivate you.

Be prepared, but do not fear, for anything worthwhile requires a price, trade-off, or some sort of sacrifice. Let’s be honest, if you’re not willing to “give in order to get” then you won’t succeed. Use your passion to generate the energy needed to conquer your fears. 

Keep faith that as you move forward both success and failures will help you evolve into a better person, leader, or entrepreneur. 

Be bold. Set your intentions and go! Move forward. Take action today. Growth is not easy. It’s time to stop worrying about making a mistake. We ALL make mistakes.

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As a leader, be careful how you interpret actions, words, text, etc. Your first interpretation could be wrong.

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What if I said your "Positive Thinking" strategy was totally wrong? (Video)

We all know positive thinking helps you reach your goals. But, what if I told you that part of this could be wrong?

Let’s take a moment. Close your eyes and think about an obstacle you are trying to overcome. Now, use positive thinking to visualize overcoming that obstacle. Open your eyes and answer this question. Has anything changed? Nope, we just created a “positive fantasy.” That’s the risk. Nothing changed

Too many people use the power of positive thinking, which might be a good start, but the never plan or take action.

Gabriele Oettingen in “Rethinking Positive Thinking” suggests using a method of mental contrasting, the process of associating obstacles with the behaviors needed to overcome them.

So how do we actually do this? Her suggestion is the WOOP method.

  • Wish –Visualize a wish or concern and hold it in place

  • Outcome – Envision the positive result you want to occur

  • Obstacle – Identify any obstacles that could potentially stop you from reaching the outcome

  • Plan – Determine actions you can take if, when, and where those obstacles occur

Last but not least, write your plan down. Translate your positive thinking fantasy into actionable steps.


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A Lesson on Tolerance & Working Together from Napoleon Hill

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A Lesson on Tolerance & Working Together from Napoleon Hill

I enjoy reading non-fiction and especially classics. Should we be surprised that an impactful lesson from around 1925 - 1928 is still relevant and highly applicable in today's society? No. The book, "The Law of Success" written by Napoleon Hill is full of tried-and-true lessons, and I'm only on page 79! 

While reading last night I came across a particular story that stood out to me. The lesson from this story should be adapted and taught at every level of school or university ... written on the walls of every corporation and echoed through the halls of our government establishments.

It should be weaved throughout the speeches of all leaders within our communities. I'm not making a political statement. I'm not pointing the finger at the right or left, at the corporations, Hollywood, or anything/anyone else.

In fact, it is an observation and lesson that can be seen and learned across all of these institutions and their respective constituents. We need to look in the mirror. We need to reflect on how we can change as an individual first.

Then, how to help support others to improve and spread tolerance across our communities. Right now in the US, the world, our communities, and within corporations, we are suffering from two major problems:

  1. Intolerance - an unwillingness to accept views, beliefs, or behavior that differ from one's own 

  2. A Lack of Willingness to Work Together - Not setting aside our differences due to intolerance, the lust for undisputed power, success, or any other illogical reason to come together for the good of all

Note: According to Mr. Hill, we can define Power as "organized energy and effort." Success is the "development of the power with which to get whatever one wants in life without interfering with the rights of others." 

So by now, you might be wondering about the story that inspired this message. It's a simple story of a father that had seven children that were always quarreling. The father wanted to demonstrate the impact of their lack of co-operative effort and intolerance.

So, this father prepared a bundle of seven sticks and carefully tied them together. One by one he asked each child to attempt to take the bundle and break it. Each child was unsuccessful. The strength and power of the bundle was no match for the individual.

Then, the father cut the strings and handed one of the sticks to each of his children. Again, he asked each child to try and break their stick. All sticks were broken. 

At this point, the father said, "When you boys work together in a spirit of harmony you resemble the bundle of sticks, and no one can defeat you, but when you quarrel among yourselves anyone can defeat you one at a time." 

To gain power and to reach a successful end (as defined in the note above) we must work together in harmony and be tolerant of others. 

It doesn't matter who you are, where you work, your political affiliation, or anything like that. Intolerance and the lack of a willingness to work together is hurting our communities and corporations.

We are all different.

We may have different beliefs. But, we are all seeking the same goal: To leave this world as a better place for generations to come. 

Some of you have already made snap judgements about this article. You might be thinking, "Hey, it's not my fault, it's their fault!"

All I'm asking is for you to stop for a moment. Take a deep breath.

This time, instead of immediately pointing fingers, take some time to start reflecting. Accept some of the responsibility. Conduct an internal inventory.

Change yourself first.

Learn to listen. Learn to be tolerant. Learn to work together with people you don't agree with. Lead the change. You set the example and spread the word.

Show up each and every moment ready and willing to listen, to show tolerance, to be humble, and to work together. It may be a complicated and tough road ahead ... I know this. But, believe me, if we all work together, just like the bundle of sticks, there is a win / win solution.

Success is inevitable when working together in harmony without interfering with the rights of others. 

Stewart Swayze

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ABOUT STEWART

Hi. I’m Stewart Swayze, I’m a Career Transition and Marketing Coach for Entrepreneurs. I release new videos every week on those topics. If your interested in developing your career or marketing your business, view my YouTube Channel below.


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